SERVICES
What I work with.
Six things, mostly. They overlap more than you'd think.
01 WHO THIS IS FOR
You're tired of feelinglike you're the only one.
You're tired of feeling like you're the only one who doesn't have it figured out — like everyone else got the manual for being a functioning adult and you somehow missed the memo.
Most of my clients come in around something specific: the anxiety they can't shake, the ADHD they're tired of white-knuckling through, the family stuff they've spent a decade not looking at. What we end up working on usually connects to something underneath. That's the actual work.
02THE SIX
What we'll actually work on.
Anxiety & overthinking
The 2am brain that won't quit. The stomach-drop before sending a text. The mental rehearsal of conversations that haven't happened. Anxiety isn't a personality trait — it's a nervous system stuck on alert. We figure out what's underneath.
Read moreADHD in adults
Time blindness, task paralysis, the shame spiral after a decade of being told you just need to try harder. ADHD isn't a willpower problem. We track how your brain actually behaves, then build from there—not from the shame script you've been handed.
Read morePeople-pleasing & relationship patterns
The ones who say yes too fast. The ones who apologize for taking up space. The ones who keep ending up in the same dynamics with different people. We name the patterns, we name what they cost you, and we get clear on what they've been covering for.
Read morePerfectionism & impostor syndrome
The voice that says it's not good enough yet. The bar that moves every time you reach it. The certainty that everyone else knows something you don't. Perfectionism isn't ambition — it's anxiety in a more socially acceptable outfit. We find what it's protecting you from admitting out loud.
Read moreLife transitions & identity
Career changes, breakups, becoming a parent, leaving a religion, questioning who you are beyond the roles you've always played. Transitions rarely stay tidy — they drag old stuff to the surface. We make sense of what's actually shaking loose.
Read moreChildhood trauma & family patterns
Untangling what you learned young — the emotionally unavailable parents, the dynamics you swore you'd never repeat, the quiet ways they still run the show. We go at a pace your nervous system can tolerate — and we don't pretend there's a clean shortcut through the hard part.
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See yourself here? Start with a free 15-minute consult.
Start a consult →03 HOW I WORK
Therapy should feel like the most useful conversation you have all week.
I listen for what's true underneath the story you rehearse in the mirror. I name patterns when I see them, I ask the uncomfortable question when it helps, and I'll tell you if I think we're circling instead of moving. We stay close to what's happening in your body, your relationships, and your actual week—not as buzzwords, but as the stuff that keeps tripping you up. If you leave a session with nothing you can use on a Tuesday, we missed the point.
04STARTING
Not sure which one fits?Start with a conversation.
Most people don't show up knowing exactly what they want to work on. That's fine. The 15-minute consult is where we figure out if this is the right fit and which direction to start.
You send a note.
Takes a minute. Tell me what’s bringing you in, or just say “hi, I want to talk.” No intake form, no questionnaire.
We do a 15-minute call.
No cost, no commitment. We see if it’s a fit. If it’s not, I’ll help you find someone it is.
We book a first session.
Evenings and weekends available. Telehealth from anywhere in New York State.
Or email Angela@nystateofmindtherapy.com
Want a better feel for the work first? Read about Angela.