ADHD5 min read
ADHD Isn't Laziness: Why 'Just Try Harder' Doesn't Work
If you've ever wondered why you can hyperfocus on random Wikipedia rabbit holes but can't start that important project—this is for you.
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Things to read while you're overthinking.
Articles on anxiety, ADHD, relationships, and figuring out why your brain works the way it does.
ADHD10 min read
Why Rejection Hurts So Much More When You Have ADHD
That text you sent 20 minutes ago with no reply? Your brain has already decided the friendship is over. There's a name for this—and it's not just anxiety.
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Executive Functioning Struggles Aren't a Productivity Problem
If you can't seem to start tasks, finish things, or manage your time no matter how hard you try — this isn't a willpower problem.
Read →CHILDHOOD TRAUMA12 min read
When the Person Who Raised You Wasn't Emotionally Equipped to Do It: A Guide to Healing from Emotionally Immature Caregiving
Maybe you've read Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents and felt, for the first time, like someone finally put language to something you've been trying to describe for years...
Read →GETTING STARTED8 min read
How to Know If You've Found the Right Therapist (And When to Stop Second-Guessing It)
You've been meaning to find a therapist for a while now. Months, maybe. You've googled. You've read bios. You've opened a contact form, stared at it, and closed it. The fear of picking the wrong one is one of the most reliable ways to never start at all. So let's actually answer it — including the part about what makes me a good fit for certain people (and not others).
Read →ANXIETY8 min read
How to Stop an Anxiety Spiral (When Your Brain Won't Let You Logic Your Way Out)
That 2am worst-case scenario marathon? There's a reason logic doesn't stop it—and actual techniques that do. Here's what's really happening and how to interrupt it.
Read →RELATIONSHIPS8 min read
One-Sided Relationships in NYC: Why You Keep Giving More Than You Get
If you always end up being the one who gives more, tries harder, and cares more in relationships — this is for you.
Read →SELF-GROWTH9 min read
Perfectionism Isn't "High Standards." It's Fear With Good Lighting.
You don't miss deadlines. You don't half-ass anything. You hold yourself to a standard most people wouldn't even attempt — and then you beat yourself up for not hitting it. Perfectionism isn't about being great at things. It's about being terrified of what happens if you're not. Here's what's really going on and how to start letting go.
Read →ANXIETY6 min read
The Sunday Scaries Are Trying to Tell You Something
That Sunday dread isn't just about Monday. Here's what the Sunday scaries are really about — and what to do when they show up every single week.
Read →RELATIONSHIPS9 min read
Why You Keep Repeating the Same Patterns (And What to Do About It)
If you keep ending up in the same situations — same relationship dynamics, same boundary problems, same cycles — it's not bad luck. Here's why patterns repeat and how to break them.
Read →ANXIETY4 min read
Why Your Brain Won't Stop: Understanding the Anxiety Spiral
That 3am brain loop replaying every awkward thing you've ever said? There's a reason it happens—and ways to break the cycle.
Read →ADHD12 min read
Why Can't I Start Tasks Even When I Want To? Understanding Task Paralysis, Executive Dysfunction, and the ADHD Brain
Can't start tasks even when you want to? A therapist with ADHD explains task paralysis, executive dysfunction, shame cycles, and why motivation isn't the problem.
Read →CHILDHOOD TRAUMA9 min read
Why You Can't Just 'Get Over' Trauma (And What Healing Actually Looks Like)
If you've spent years telling yourself to let it go, to be stronger—you've been working incredibly hard. But healing doesn't come from pushing through. It comes from understanding what your nervous system has been carrying.
Read →RELATIONSHIPS5 min read
The Hidden Cost of Being 'The Nice One'
People-pleasing isn't kindness—it's a survival strategy that destroys your boundaries. Here's why it's so hard to stop, and how to start setting boundaries.
Read →GETTING STARTED4 min read
What Actually Happens in a First Therapy Session
The hardest part of therapy is the first five minutes. You're wondering what to say, whether you're doing it "right," and if you're allowed to take your shoes off. Here's what actually happens in a first session—and why it's way less weird than you think.
Read →05STARTING
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